Let’s Talk Lube!
I know many of you out there are thinking, “Lube? I don’t need no stinkin” lube!” I used to feel exactly the same way. I get really wet, why would I want to make an even bigger mess? You know that not so nice raw, stinging, chafing sensation you sometimes have after sex or the next day? That is a result of not using lubricant. Lube keeps that from happening, it helps sex toys and your partner’s body parts slip in much more comfortably. It can revitalize your sex life.
I know girls who swore they’d never, ever, ever try anal sex, who loved it after being properly introduced with a whole lotta lube!
Lubricant is a very important ingredient in most forms of sexual play, whether on your own or with a partner. Sure, if your partner is going down on you, no lube needed. However when insertion is involved, you want to crack out that lubricant.
Remember…be gentle with yourself. You deserve it, and you’ll have that much more fun.
Do you like a cooling sensation? A warming sensation? Want your man to last longer? Prefer couple’s lube? It’s all out there. As each woman’s body is unique, different lubes will feel different to each of us. I find some work better for certain activities than others. I suggest you try multiple lubricants until you find your favorites.
There are three types of lubricant: water-based, silicone-based, and oil-based. Each has its pros and cons.
Water-based Lubricant Pros:
• Can be used with condoms and all sex toys
• Easy to clean
• Doesn’t stain
Water-based Lubricant Cons:
• Tends to dry out and require reapplication
• Cannot be used in water
• Can get sticky
• Glycerin may be increase the risk of yeast infections (if you’re susceptible, use a product without glycerin)
• Parabens can cause sensitivities in some people (there are paraben-free products)
Silicone-based Lubricant Pros:
• Can be used with condoms
• Slicker than Water-based
• Longer lasting than Water-based
• Waterproof
• Few people are allergic
Silicone-based Lubricant Cons:
• More difficult to clean up than Water-based
• Incompatible with silicone toys
• Can stain clothing and sheets
• Flammable
Oil-based Lubricant Pros:
• Maximum slickness
• Lasts the longest
Oil-based Lubricant Cons:
• Difficult to clean
• Can lead to yeast infections
• Not safe for use with latex condoms
• Tend to break down toys quickly
I will be adding reviews and product summaries of some of my favorite and not so favorite lubes. Remember, all our bodies are different. What feels good to me may be too much or not enough for you. Also keep in mind, women’s bodies fluctuate throughout the month (those dreaded hormones!) so there are times you may require additionally lubrication. I generally keep several lubes in my sex toy chest at all times. This way I am prepared for any circumstance.
For those of you who prefer to browse, check out the lubricants carried by my favorite stores in the sidebar!
** A little aside here on yeast infections and lubricant, and please note this information does NOT take the place of a consultation with your doctor. I am not a medical professional, and this is just some basic background. If you have any concerns about the the ingredients in the products you use or possible reactions in your body, please consult with your health care professional.
Yeast is normally present in the vagina. A yeast infection occurs when the vaginal pH becomes imbalanced and too much yeast begins to grow. One cause may be the introduction of sugars to the body, especially the vaginal environment. As glycerin is a sugary substance, there is a concern that using products with glycerin can increase the likelihood of yeast infections. Some women who are prone to yeast infections do report an increase in infections when using products containing glycerin. However, this is not the case for everyone. If you do not get yeast infections, there is probably no need for concern.
Again, do not take my word for it. Please discuss any concerns you have with a health care professional. We are all different, with different bodies and different issues. This information is meant to be helpful and informative. I do not purport to have all the answers. I can only tell you what works for me and how I address my concerns.