What the heck is a bean fiddler, right? I am so pleased you asked…
It’s my private code for masturbation. I’ve no idea where I picked this up, but I used to call my girlfriends “bean fiddler” when I was being silly. I still do. So when I decided to start this site, it seemed like a perfect time to share this term with all you other bean fiddlers out there.

Who am I? Among other things, I’m a horny girl who refuses to be hemmed in by old ideas. I am Beanfiddler, hear me roar.

As you may have guessed, I am a also bean fiddler. I love to masturbate, whether I’m alone or with my man. I love to do it myself and I love when he plays with me. I am here to encourage each and every one of you to access your inner bean fiddler with pride and confidence.

I’ve always wondered about the “girls don’t like sex” myth. Why is it so taboo for women to want sex as much (or almost as much) as guys? Who are we kidding? Girls are just as into sex and we shouldn’t feel guilty or embarrassed about it.

My girlfriends and I love sex as much as our men do. We are creative and imaginative. We like to have fun and we like to experiment. We play with sex toys on our own as well as with our partners. We swap stories and share information.

In the beginning I was used to men buying me sex toys. I felt uncomfortable walking into a store or even shopping online for them. Then one day I realized how foolish that was and decided to let go of those feelings. I began to understand how empowering it was to take control of my sex life. I have never looked back.

Now, my man travels a LOT for work. When we are together, it’s amazing. But when we’re not, the distance doesn’t stop me from pleasing myself with or without him. I am working on building up my collection to make sure I have many pleasurable options, especially when he’s not around.

So I decided to start reviewing sex toys and sensual products. What started as a bid to take control of my sexuality has turned into one of my favorite past times. I love shopping for sex toys, going through my collection, and sharing my experience with others. Of course, I have my faves, but I appreciate every toy in my toy chest. Now and then, I rediscover my sex toys and implements and make sure I put them to good use.

Please feel free to post questions or your own reviews and enjoy!

A word on toy shopping…
Granted, I live in the big city and have access to my fair share of of sex toy stores. Yet I have never been comfortable walking in and being eyed by all the sleazy guys. Not only that, even the best stores don’t have a great selection. Hooray for the internet! I do 100% of my toy shopping in the comfort and privacy of my own home. No sly looks, no embarrassment. It is fabulous! I love the selection and ease of shopping online.

My favorite stores are posted in the sidebar. I encourage you to visit them and take a look at all their goodies!